TRANSFORMATIONAL THERAPY

Talk therapy explains why you feel stuck.

My work rewires the unconscious, emotional patterns and beliefs that keep you there.

Amita Butler

TRANSFORMATIONAL THERAPY

My name is Amita Butler— I’m a Belief Reprogramming Expert + Clinical Cognitive Hypnotherapist

with 16+ years helping people break free from the roles, beliefs, and emotional patterns that keep

them small, stuck and feeling not good enough.

I specialise in helping people uncover the beliefs that have been quietly sabotaging their lives -

everything from their confidence to their relationships.

This is not conventional therapy, this is deep, targeted belief reprogramming. We don’t just

talk about your beliefs.We rewrite them.

In a relaxed but focused state, we bypass the critical, conscious mind and speak directly to your

unconscious — the part that runs 95% of your thoughts, feelings & behaviour. We eliminate outdated

patterns and install new supportive, empowering ones - often in just one powerful 2 hour Session!

The belief system that’s been running your life? It gets updated—at the root.

You leave with a compassionate understanding of yourself and your story - happier, confident, with a

renewed sense of optimism and purpose.

● Get clarity on the story that’s been running your life.

● Shift the limiting belief at the root.

● And finally live — boldly, freely, and unapologetically.

PULL OUT QUOTES:

“If you’ve tried everything and nothing has truly shifted, this may be the

missing piece. You’re not damaged or faulty. It’s just a programme and programmes can be updated”.

“Talk therapy explains why you feel stuck. My work rewires the unconscious, emotional patterns and

beliefs that keep you there.”

TESTIMONIAL From Trapped to Liberated: “I spent years feeling invisible, trapped by everyone

else’s expectations. One session with Amita and it was like a switch flipped—suddenly, the shame

and old stories lost their grip. I felt lighter, braver, and finally in control of my own life”..

Michelle W.

- Barcelona.

DO YOU SECRETLY BELIEVE CHANGE HAS TO BE PAINFUL—AND TAKE YEARS?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

A lot of us try everything to feel better:

📚 Self-help books

🎧 Podcasts and TED Talks

🧘🏾 Yoga retreats, meditation apps

💬 Years of talk therapy

🍄 Ayahuasca, mushrooms… you name it

We do all the things, hoping something will stick. And when it doesn’t, we blame ourselves. Cue

more shame, anxiety, and exhaustion.

But here’s the truth: lasting change doesn’t happen through the conscious mind.

🧠 95% of your behaviour is driven by unconscious programming.

🧠 80% of your thoughts are negative.

🧠 And 95% of those thoughts are recycled from before age 7.

No amount of reading or talking can override that kind of wiring.

But hypnotherapy can.

Here’s why:

In a relaxed Theta brain state, you bypass the critical mind and access the root. You’re still in

control—but we can safely identify the beliefs and emotions keeping you stuck, and rewire them

fast.

💡 Think of it as emotional surgery without the pain.

💡 We don’t have to talk in circles.

💡 You don’t need to relive everything.

We get to the root. We change the pattern. And it works—in hours, not years.

If you’ve tried everything except this… maybe this is the missing piece.

📅 I offer 1:1 sessions for people who are ready to stop playing small and start living big.

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WERE YOU PUNISHED AS A CHILD FOR BEING A TRUTH TELLER?

In chaotic or emotionally dysfunctional homes, every child has to adapt to survive.

They pick a role — often without realising it.

Some freeze.

Some fawn.

Some fight to stay invisible.

Some learn to manipulate to survive.

And some? Some become the truth-teller.

They see the dysfunction.

They name the harm.

They ask the questions no one wants to answer.

And instead of being appreciated… they are punished.

Ostracised. Blamed. Cut off.

If this was you, please know that your clarity was never the problem.

You tried to do the right thing by pointing out the dysfunction - hoping that by calling it out, it

would be made a priority and resolved.What the child doesn’t understand is that denial is what these types of families are built on - the

truth is far too threatening.

Denial will always win, no matter the cost.

In our work together,, we help you release the pain of that role — so that you can reclaim your

strength.

Because you weren't wrong. At that young age, you had the courage to call out the elephant in the

room - you were, in fact, the brave, perceptive one. 🥰

If you are done carrying the weight of a role you didn’t choose, please check out the link to my

Offer in the Comments Section.

It's never too late. 🧡

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YOU CAN’T BREAK A PATTERN YOU’RE STILL BENEFITING FROM

Here’s a question that might feel uncomfortable — but ultimately liberating:

What are you unconsciously gaining from not changing?

This is called secondary gain.

And it’s one of the biggest reasons personal growth doesn’t stick.

Your nervous system might be getting:

● A false sense of control

● Safety in the familiar

● Approval for being the reliable one

● Protection from the risk of visibility, failure, or abandonment

This doesn’t mean you’re weak but this pattern is keeping you stuck and frustrated.

In our work together, we get curious about what you’re protecting — and help you shift from

survival mode to thriving.

Often in one Session.

Because growth doesn’t mean losing safety. It means redefining it.

DM me for further information or visit my website to find out moreRAISED BY NARCISSISTS. GASLIT BY THE WORLD.

Don’t worry, you’re not crazy And there is a pathway to healing.

Many people can’t imagine what it’s like growing up in a narcissistic or dysfunctional home.

Where love is twisted into control.

Where survival meant hiding who you truly are.

Where everything about you is questioned—except your ability to smile through it all.

Trying to explain this to people who’ve never lived it?

It’s like speaking a language no one else understands.

They don’t mean to dismiss your story.

But they don’t get it either.

The emotional manipulation.

The fear of rejection.

The roles you had to play just to stay safe.

These patterns don’t magically disappear when you grow up.

They follow you—in relationships, in work, in the way you doubt yourself.

But here’s the truth:

✨ You’re not the crazy one.

✨ You’re not too sensitive.

✨ You’re not broken beyond repair.

You’re carrying wounds that were never yours to begin with.

And you don’t have to carry them into the future.

Inside our work together, we unpack the unspoken.

We name the invisible.

The belief system that's been running your life gets updated - at the root. You leave with a

compassionate understanding of yourself and your story - happier, confident with a renewed

sense of optimism and purpose.

If you're ready to stop living under the weight of what was done to you,

this is your path forward.

You matter, your story matters. Your healing is possible.

🧡YOU'RE IN TRANCE MORE THAN YOU THINK

Ever driven home and realised you don’t remember the last 10 minutes of the journey?

Or gotten so into a book you missed your stop?

Or found yourself daydreaming mid-meeting?

That’s trance. And it’s completely normal.

🧠 It’s your unconscious taking the wheel for a bit.

As a cognitive hypnotherapist, I see trance everywhere.

In fact, I believe most of our problems are trance states too.

- That moment you shut down in conflict.

- That panic before hitting “send” on an email.

- That spiral of overthinking before a decision.

Those aren’t you — they’re rehearsed, unconscious patterns that feel automatic.

My job?

Isn’t to “hypnotise” you — it’s to de-hypnotise you.

To help you wake up from the trance of fear, shame, or self-doubt...

and choose a response that actually fits who you are now. 🙂

DM me if you’re ready to break free from an old pattern.

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THE MOST DANGEROUS BELIEF IS THE ONE THAT FEELS LIKE TRUTH.

You’re not lazy.

You’re not broken.

You’re not “too much” or “too late.”

You’re likely carrying a belief that says:

“It doesn’t matter what I do — nothing will change.”

That belief gets installed early —

when home felt unpredictable, maybe chaotic

and safety meant staying invisible.

We adapt. We survive.

But we also carry that belief into adulthood — where it silently blocks joy, success, connection.

In our work together, we gently rewire those roots.

No long story. No rehashing trauma.

Just rapid, empowering, effective change.

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CAN YOU PIN-POINT THE MOMENT YOU LOST HOPE?

That pattern likely didn’t start in adulthood. It usually begins when we are very young — at a time

when being your authentic self didn’t get you the love, attention, or safety you needed.

So you adapted.. You stayed quiet.You made yourself useful.

You tried not to need too much. You learned to survive by abandoning yourself.

And while that pattern protected you then, it may be hurting you now.

Anxiety. Burnout. Depression. Hopelessness. Feeling stuck and not knowing why.

If this resonates, please know: your mind did its job brilliantly — it kept you safe.

But now? You’re an adult with strength, capabilities, power, and choices. You don’t have to live as

if you’re still in danger.

That’s the work I do. We identify the root story that’s been running your life — and we rewrite it.

You’ll feel stronger, calmer, clearer, and finally in control.

🌱 You were never broken. Just adapting.

It’s time to return to your real self — the one you were before the fear crept in.

📩 DM me if you’re ready to shift the story.

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WHEN TRAUMA STRIKES, IT CAN BE DEVASTATING.

Last year, a 32-year-old woman was violently attacked whilst on holiday.

She spent two weeks in the hospital. When she returned home, her mother told me:

“She was a completely changed person.”

Depressed. Anxious. Refusing to leave the house.

Online therapy helped a little, but the panic at night remained.

She couldn’t sleep. Every time she closed her eyes, she relived the trauma.

That’s when her mother found me.In our second hypnotherapy session, we used a technique designed to reduce the emotional

charge of traumatic memories — without forcing someone to relive them.

Within 30 minutes, she could recall the event with distance.

Not numb.

Not avoidant.

Just... free from the hijack.

Her mom wrote:

“She could look at that night in her mind and not feel anything. It was like it was happening to

someone else.”

She slept through the night for the first time in months.

That one shift helped unlock her healing.

I share this not to promote myself — but to share hope.

Trauma doesn’t have to be permanent.

It can be rewired — gently, effectively, and with care.

If this resonates with you or someone you love, feel free to DM me or explore the work I do with

trauma-impacted women.

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TALKING HELPS. BUT REWIRING IS WHAT TRANSFORMS.

You can talk about your patterns for years…

But if you're not accessing the system that runs those patterns?

You're just strengthening the loop.

Neuroscience calls this Hebb’s Law:

“Neurons that fire together wire together.”

Meaning: the more you focus on something—an emotion, a thought pattern, a behaviour—the

stronger those neural pathways become.

So when you spend years repeating internal scripts like:

“I’m not enough.”

“Something’s wrong with me.”

“I have to keep everyone happy…”

“This is all I deserve”

You’re not just thinking it.

You’re wiring it into your nervous system.

This is why simply “talking through” your problems often isn’t enough.

You might gain insight—but the pattern stays wired.

The work I do is different. We focus on the unconscious mind.

We unhook outdated patterns and install new ones.

We don’t just talk about your beliefs, we rewrite them.

Fast. Deep. Permanent.You’re not just thinking differently.

You’re becoming someone new at the identity level

And it’s never too late!

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People Pleasers + Narcissistic Personalities: A Devastating but All-Too-Common Dynamic

If you’ve ever been in a relationship — personal or professional — with someone who consistently

focuses on their own needs, leaves you emotionally drained, and makes you feel like you’re the

problem... you’re not alone.

Narcissistic patterns and people-pleasing traits often magnetise each other.

And the result? A dynamic that leaves one person constantly performing, adjusting, and

self-abandoning — while the other demands, drains, and deflects.

I’ve witnessed these dynamics up close — both personally and professionally — and I know how much damage they cause.

🧠 The chronic anxiety.

🧍🏾‍♀️ The shame that’s not yours to carry.

💔 The exhaustion of trying to be “enough” for someone who will never be satisfied.

And yet — you stay. You try harder. You shrink.

Because your unconscious mind still believes:

“If I’m good enough, they’ll finally love me. Approve of me. Change for me.”

But that day doesn’t come.

Because narcissistic patterns rarely shift — and your job is not to fix them.

🔁 The pattern stops with you.

The work I do with clients isn’t about blame or over-analysis.

It’s about deep clarity, deep healing, and a real path forward.

We work together to:

✅ Understand who you are, underneath the patterns

✅ Reconnect to your needs — and learn how to get them met

✅ Heal the core wounds, at the root and not just mask the symptoms

✅ Regulate emotions + create unshakeable boundaries

✅ Rebuild self-trust, self-respect, self-compassion and authentic expression

🔥 What happens next?

Clients tell me they feel:

Liberated...clear, calm, and at peace.

They leave with a profound, compassionate understanding of themselves and their story.Happier, confident, with a renewed sense of optimism and purpose.

They stop chasing love. They start living.

They stop people-pleasing. They start protecting their peace.

They attract healthy, nurturing, emotionally safe relationships — because they finally believe they

deserve them.

- Get clarity on the story that’s been running your life.

- Shift the limiting belief at the root.

- And finally live — boldly, freely, and unapologetically.

💌 If this resonates — you don’t have to figure it all out alone.

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Many of my clients had high ACE scores without realising — and no idea how deeply that history

had shaped their mental and physical health.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, reactive, exhausted, or on edge — your nervous system may still be

organised around survival, not safety.

What Is an ACE Score?

Your ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) score is a tally of different types of early life stress,

such as abuse, neglect, or household dysfunction. The higher your score, the greater your

exposure to trauma during your formative years.

Research shows that a high ACE score (4 or more) is linked to:

- Increased risk of anxiety, depression, and PTSD- Chronic diseases like heart issues, diabetes, and autoimmune disorders

- Addictive behaviours and burnout

- A shorter lifespan

But, it’s important to know that your ACE score doesn’t define you…stats aren’t destiny.

This score just reveals where the healing needs to begin.

In the work I do, we work as a team to interrupt those emotional patterns and that trajectory.

Because the survival strategies that kept you safe as a child are not required anymore.

And your body — and mind — are well overdue for relief.

DM me for the free ACE Score Guide or check out my free Session guide in the Comments.

It’s never too late! 🧡

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So often, when I work with people struggling with addiction, they come in carrying a heavy weight

of shame. They believe it’s about weakness, failure, or lack of willpower.

I explain that addiction is not really about the substance or the habit itself—it’s about the

underlying emotion they’ve been trying to regulate, often in the only way they know how.

When we shift the focus from blame to understanding, healing becomes possible.

If you are struggling with any kind of addiction, don't despair, there is hope!

🥰IMAGINE SAYING YES TO OPPORTUNITIES YOU USED TO HIDE FROM.

This is what happens to my clients once they decide they’ve had enough of the shame,

the fear, the anxiety AND the playing small.

Those unconscious beliefs that are running your life:

“I’m not smart enough”?

“This is all I deserve”,

“I’m different, I’m only good at playing the supportive roles” -

All things I hear from my clients regularly….

They are not true!

They are just distortions - downloaded by our unconscious minds before we were 8 years old because we didn’t have the critical capacity at that young age to question the information we downloaded.

Instead, our unconscious minds accepted EVERY signal that our families, friends, teachers and experiences presented to us as “the truth” - both positive and negative. And those unconscious, so-called “truths” are still dictating how we feel about ourselves and how we show up in the world.

But this IS the truth.

You are so much more than the limited story currently running your life.

And you CAN rewrite it so that it empowers and liberates you.

Let’s me know if you’re ready to make that shift! It’s never too late.

Why Real Change Doesn’t Happen in Talk Therapy — And What Actually Works

My name is Amita Butler— I’m a Clinical Cognitive Hypnotherapist/ Belief Reprogramming

Expert with over 16 years experience helping people uncover the unconscious beliefs that have been

quietly sabotaging their lives - everything from their confidence to their relationships.

This work is for smart, self-aware people who have done talk therapy, read self help books, listened

to podcasts but still feel stuck. They want change but nothing’s actually worked, so they often give

up trying. What they don’t realise is that it’s not their fault, nothing has changed because all that

“work” focuses on the conscious part of the brain.

If you’re confused, let me explain; the latest scientific research proves that our thoughts, feelings and

behaviour are driven by our unconscious minds 95% of the time. Not only that but 80% of the

thoughts we have are negative and 95% are the same repetitive thoughts we have had since we

were 7 years old! You can listen to all the podcasts, visualise the life you want, even spend years in

talk therapy…BUT if that part of you — the 95% that runs the show — still believes you're flawed,

unworthy, unlovable or unsafe, you'll keep repeating the same patterns and nothing will actually

change.

I take a different approach. This is not conventional therapy, this is deep, targeted belief

reprogramming. We don’t just talk about your beliefs, we rewrite them - often in just one, powerful

2-hour Session!

In a relaxed but focused state, we bypass the critical, conscious mind and speak directly to your

unconscious. Together, we eliminate outdated, negative beliefs and patterns, replacing them with

new, supportive, empowering ones.The belief system that’s been running your life gets updated.

My clients leave with a compassionate understanding of themselves and their story, which helps

them:

● Leave behind self-doubt and toxic relationships

● Feel calm, confident, and good enough

● Make bold moves in work, love, and life

● Move forwards, happier, confident, with a renewed sense of optimism and purpose.

PULL OUT QUOTES:

“If you’ve tried everything and nothing has truly shifted, this may be the

missing piece. You’re not damaged or faulty. It’s just a programme and programmes can be

updated”.

“Talk therapy explains why you feel stuck. My work rewires the unconscious, emotional

patterns and beliefs that keep you there.”

TESTIMONIAL

From Trapped to Liberated: “I spent years feeling invisible, trapped by everyone

else’s expectations. One session with Amita and it was like a switch flipped—suddenly, the

shame and old stories lost their grip. I felt lighter, braver, and finally in control of my own life”.

Michelle W.

- Barcelona.